Coming to You

Directed by Gyuri Byun
Omnibus Entertainment
2021
93 Minutes
South Korea
Korean
Documentary, LGBTQIA2S+, Asian
Not Rated

Gyuri Byun's groundbreaking Korean documentary centers on two working class mothers, Nabi and Vivian. Like many in South Korea, where there is a distinct lack of legal protections for queer communities and gay marriage remains illegal, neither women gave much thought to LGBTQ+ rights or its growing advocacy among the country's younger generations. Their lives and perceptions, however, are when their respective children come out to them – Nabi's daughter as trans, and Vivian's son as gay. Reluctant to accept this news at first, both women's reactions reveal deep-rooted discriminatory beliefs about queerness. This is not uncommon in South Korean society, which makes their respective transformations all the more impactful – both women grow to not only accept their children's gender and sexuality, but become activists in their own right as members of Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTAIQ+ People in Korea. Both Nabi and Vivian grapple with the pain and loneliness their children feel, the struggle to access gender affirming care, and the yearning for social and familial acceptance.

Director & Cast

  • Director: Gyuri Byun
  • Starring: Eunae 'Nabi' Jeong
  • Starring: Sunhwa 'Vivian' Kang
  • Starring: Hankyeol Lee
  • Starring: Yejoon Joung

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Reviews

  • "“Coming to You”, with its two exceptionally relatable testimonials, is an inspiring account of how mentality, prejudices and social expectations can change and leave space to respect, acceptance and happiness."
    Adriana Rosati, Asian Movie Pulse
  • ""Coming to You" emerges as an excellent documentary, which makes its comments in a way that is both easy to watch and highly informative."
    Panos Kotzathanasis, HanCinema
  • "Coming to You is a sweet, understanding and kind exploration of mother-son relationships and how they evolve. It’s an inspiration for other parents to embrace their queer children, watching how these two mothers whole-heartedly throw themselves into the community, prepared to listen, learn and love their children for who they are."
    Rebecca Cherry, FilmCarnage.com
  • "By concentrating on a handful on individuals, we get to witness firsthand how difficult the journey through the South Korean legal structure is...."
    Richard Gray, The Reel Bits
  • "“Coming to You”, with its two exceptionally relatable testimonials, is an inspiring account of how mentality, prejudices and social expectations can change and leave space to respect, acceptance and happiness."
    Adriana Rosati, Asian Movie Pulse
  • ""This film is a stark look at how this deeply traditional conservative society treats a vulnerable, marginalized group of people. It’s not pretty, but it’s necessary to see where they are and to extrapolate what needs to happen to bring equality to all. The question looming over the issue is this: if a society only welcomes people who adhere to a very narrow definition of mores and social structures, then what happens to those who are different? How dull and awful would the world be?""
    Bradley Gibson, Film Threat
  • ""Writer/director Gyuri Byun’s Coming to You is a monument to the love and support families can provide for their children even if it takes the older generation a minute to get there....Centered on the mothers’ journeys to acceptance, the film could have benefitted from a deeper exploration of the children’s experiences. A few more interviews with them would have really strengthened the project. But the moms are raw and honest, flawed but trying. And the extent they are willing to listen, love and change to support their kids is just beautiful.""
    Hope Madden, Columbus Underground